At first, I thought this message was for African American women 18 to 35. But this message resonates to all women every race and any age. Strong women do not sit around and wait for their mate. God did not create you primarily for a relationship He created you for purpose. And purpose is something that is giving to all of us while we are in our mother’s womb. While we are living our purpose, someone comes into our lives weather its for friendship or a relationship with intent to marry. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be married, but its not in the cards for everybody. It is okay being single some are very content. But the world has a way of making you feel uncomfortable as If something is wrong and strange about you. Maybe you are not obsessed with your sexuality, not running after every man that try to talk to you in the street. Or get all hot and bothered because he texts you good morning gorgeous.
Find your purpose and get your own identity. Then get the mate that share similar interest when you both were single. Women need to understand that we can only control us. In relationships we cannot control our mate we can only control us and what we do. It never works out if you are doing your part and they are not doing theirs.
That is why when you are single waiting on a man, you say to yourself I am getting too old I want kids. Start working on you be a master at being single. Self-develop your strengths because when he shows up and God put you two together, he will recognize you as his wife. That is why some men say I knew you was my wife when I met you. Just like Adam recognize Eve as his wife because he saw a female virgin of him.
So be busy about your goals, ambition, and your purpose. So, while you are developing, your mate is somewhere developing also. Then at some appointed time God will bring the both of you together.
Are you where you should be right now? have you grown and reached your potential? Start working on you. How about your education go back to school finish that degree you been meaning to finish? What about your credit score is it 600 and below start working on your credit? How about your physical health are you at your goal wait? Look at yourself in the mirror, do you like what you see. Are you suffering from childhood trauma? Were you abused or abandoned as a child? How about toxic relationship issues? Work on it before you start a new relationship because if you bring it to the new relationship you will abuse your mate while you are trying to heal from the trauma of the last relationship. If you think about it, you are not emotionally ready because you are still crying from that toxic sold tie. Maybe your Dad was not in your life. So, you will hold on to this man because you missed out on a relationship with your father.
Do you have a relationship with God? Because he will fill that void or emptiness. So that when the wrong person comes along you will not have any room for toxic energy. Because God has filled that space to the compactly.
Are you financially stable? Because we live in a time now where men and women should equally bring their finances to the table. Men love a woman that can take care of herself. If you depend on him to take care of you and he one day leave this world, how are you going to survive.so get your money right. Wisdom and money are your defense.